Junk Mail and Telemarketers

Do you like to get phone calls during dinner time, from strangers selling products you don’t want? Really? Me either. And yet every night around the world dinners are interrupted by ringing phones. The companies calling must be having some level of success to justify the cost right? Why would they do it if it wasn’t working?

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For the past two weeks my wife and kids have been travelling and I have been holding down the fort on my own (red meat and ice cream!!). Each night when I get home from the office I immediately grab the mail from the box. I barely flip through it before adding it to the growing pile on my kitchen table (its over 5 inches high). When my wife is in town, she gets the mail. She goes through the pile and removes all the junk. By the time I see it only the important letters remain (mostly bills L). This morning, as I stared at that pile of wasted paper, I thought, “What is the point”? Does anyone ever read this stuff? It must have some value to justify the cost right?

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This morning as I got up I flipped my phone to Facebook, just to check in anyone new had “liked” my latest post. 15 minutes later I realized I had seen enough cat photos and kids blowing out birthday candles to last a month. I hadn’t accomplished anything, didn’t increase in knowledge, and (honestly) wasn’t even entertained. It was kind of a waste. Why would I sit on Facebook for 15 minutes? It must have had some value or I wouldn’t have done it right?

Thankfully we do not have our tv hooked up to ESPN because I know exactly what would happen tonight when I finish work. I would head home, sit on the couch (with ice cream) and watch Sportscenter. As soon as that ended I would switch to ESPN2 and watch the replay. And before I know it, it would be 11:30 and I would know everything there is to know about the latest sport scandal. I would ask myself, “What was the point?” Obviously there must be some value or I wouldn’t do it….right?

Today at work I had a productive day. I cleared out my email box, I rewrote my to do list, I filled up my water bottle 27 times, I had a very productive social lunch with a colleague and I organized my file folder. I didn’t get everything done on my list, I ran out of time to make those sales calls and I didn’t quite finish that proposal but I feel pretty good. I got stuff done. I added value to my company didn’t I? I wouldn’t have spent so much time on those tasks if it wasn’t effective….right?

It is easy for us to say that we hate telemarketers and junk mail but do we recognize that there are things in our life that are like telemarketers and junk mail to our personal and work goals? Each of us has our own distractions and time suck traps that we are tempted to fall into and can derail us in our productivity and impede our journey of success.

To avoid telemarketers we can use caller id and not answer calls from out of state or numbers that we do not recognize. With junk mail we can ignore the letter and immediately filter it into the garbage without wasting another minute. But how do we avoid the time and energy sucks that we have in the other parts of our lives? Here are 4 ways that we can keep focus and priority and progress.

  1. Have a plan- I recognize in my life that ESPN is a huge temptation and a rabbit hole that tempts me in. So I made the choice to disconnect my cable. I didn’t just unplug it, I put the cable box in my garage a flipped off the light. Are there things that I miss? Of course. But I have not regretted taking back control over what I am doing in my life. Do you have goals and objectives that you refuse to let fail? Do you have a plan to accomplish them? You cannot hit a target you do not have.
  2. Reward focus- When I was training my dog to “stay” I would sit him a few feet away and I would tell him to “stay”. If he did I would smile, tell him he’s a good boy, scratch his ears and give him a biscuit. It didn’t take long for him to learn that “staying’ was a good idea. The same thing can work for you in your life. Rewarding and reinforcing positive behavior trains your brain to continue. Tell yourself that when you make these 5 sales calls you will go to the movies (or get a scoop of ice cream).
  3. Set limits- Do you have the discipline to set limits? Can you force yourself to turn off Facebook after 15 minutes or stop scrolling through Twitter? Yeah? Me either. So I have found that I need to set stronger enforcement. Often I will set an alarm that triggers me to react or you can use one of the many webtools or apps that limit the length of time that you can stay slippery internet slopes. Another option is to remove the notifications from social media on your phone.
  4. Reinforce your why- Maybe the most effective way to cut through the junk mail in your life is to know your why. What is the reason for you productivity? You have goals, processes and procedures but ultimately why do you want to accomplish your assignment? Knowing that overriding purpose can give you the discipline and focus to cut through the distraction and stay focused.

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So, if you are calling during dinner tonight from an out of state number please understand that your call will go unanswered. And tomorrow, if you want to chat about the latest MLB melt down or scandal, know that I will probably not won’t have a clue what you are talking about. Oh, and if you need me, I’ll probably be making sales calls or eating ice cream. I hate junk mail and telemarketers.

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The Six Pack Challenge

Throughout my life I have always desired six pack abs. I went through a period in my twenties where I worked out consistently, every day, for roughly 2 hours and always did cardio and abs. But being young and ignorant I thought abs were a product of exercise solely. I have since been educated and recognize that abs, of the 6 pack variety, are more a product of nutrition…plus some exercise.

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Not really me…but could be.

So last week I set a goal to focus on my eating and my exercise, to take a four month challenge to get noticeable abs. For those of you who know me well this will be a huge challenge. I love to eat and the foods I love to eat are not exactly healthy. I like pizza, ice cream and candy. But for the next 4 months I am being intentional in my eating and intentional in my work outs.

I plan to chronicle my daily routine and hopefully by the end you will see a transformation. I will look at my wins for the day, my obstacles and challenges I had to overcome and share my exercise routine and food consumption. I am doing this for a couple of reasons. First, I need to be accountable, so keep me honest. Second, maybe you can relate, maybe not, but either way I hope this journey inspires you to set a goal and go after it.

I am 38 years old and have never had a noticeable six pack.  I call this my six pack challenge. You can also follow the journey on twitter (@jakeacarlson #my6pack). My daily postings will be at www.familybeforefortune.com/mysixpackchallenge (Click Here to Check it Out)

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Morning Mastery- How I Jump Start The Day

This is the second time I have written about my morning routine (other article). And the reason for the repeat….it’s changed. Like life, we go through periods where one way is working and then as time progresses we see changes or we make improvements and that is what I have done with my morning routine.

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My focus recently has been on becoming the master of my morning, morning mastery. Learning to take control over my desire to snooze and focusing my mind during times of wander. Maybe you have experienced something similar. I have always, and remain, a strong advocate for waking up early and getting a jump on the day.

“Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” – Benjamin Franklin.

My current morning routine includes

  1. Early to bed- turning off the lights at 10:30pm has now become the first thing I do in my morning ritual. To have success, you have to prepare for success which means starting the night before.
  2. Read, no screen time- I have found that when I watch tv or look at my phone or tablet I do not sleep as deeply and I don’t wake up as refreshed as I do when I read a book before bed. There is something about the glossy screen and the flashing color that wakes my brain and creates restlessness.
  3. Wake up at 5am- I have done this for years and see no reason to change. As I studied the habits of the most successful and influential leaders, a common theme of 5am wake up is noticeable. If it works for them, it’ll probably work for me.
  4. Hydrate- I am a groggy morning guy. I love to sleep and hate to wake up early. The best way I have found to get rid of the cobwebs and focus in on the day is a big glass of water. I set it out the night before so I can stumble directly to it when I wake up.
  5. Exercise- Like waking up early I also hate to exercise (like run and workout). I like the results of waking up early and running and that is why I do them but getting started is still (and always will be) tough. I have to get my exercise in first thing or I will never do it. Lately I have been alternating between a video workout routine and jogging. It’s been working.
  6. Stretch- ok I am starting to feel my age (in my back) and so I need to take a few minutes to stretch out my legs and my back.
  7. Review my goals for the week and day- at this point I pull out my goal journal and review what I want to accomplish. I order and prioritize my tasks for the day and determine what I “must” get done to call the day a success.
  8. Quote of the day- every morning I get a great quote to my email inbox that motivates and inspires and gives me something to think about and aspire to for the day. If you would like to get this terrific quote (free) just click here and enter your email address.
  9. Prayer/mediation- I am a pretty religious guy so I like to start my day with prayers of gratitude and desires for help. If you are not religious you may want to try meditation. Visualize success and how you will accomplish it. Use the law of attraction to bring opportunities and friends your way.
  10. Carpe Diem

So there you have it. The 10 steps I have implemented into my daily routine so that I can be the master of my morning. It has been working for me. I love having a simple outline of things to accomplish right when I wake up to make sure that I am productive and I use my time wisely. That is my morning mastery.

“The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the [morning].” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (with my small adjustment).

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What Am I Afraid Of?

I checked the knot, adjusted my helmet and leaned backward over the 180-foot cliff I was supposed to be rappelling down. The wind whipped through my helmet and made a whistling sound. I leaned back a little bit more and then… froze. I couldn’t do it. I was just too scared. Of what? I can’t even remember. I was 14 years old and this was my very first rappelling adventure.

Desert Rappeling

This past week my 10-year-old daughter asked me what I was afraid of. She added I probably wasn’t afraid of anything. (Such a brave daddy) And it got me thinking, what am I afraid? It’s no longer heights and I love public speaking, I don’t even fear death. So, what am I afraid of?

I have come to the conclusion that there are only 3 things that I truly fear in life. Are they rational fears? Maybe, maybe not.

  1. Fear of Success– I spend a lot of time working towards what I define as “success”. I have spent a lifetime studying motivation, sales and business skills. And yet the unknown of success causes many people, including myself to hesitate when faced with an opportunity.

As the Marianne Williamson quote, made famous by Nelson Mandela, states “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?”

But her answer gives us hope “Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine…”

  1. Fear of not Succeeding– Similar to the fear above, the fear of not succeeding creates inaction. Sometimes called the fear of failure, embarrassment or humiliation, the desire to avoid looking incompetent or mistaken stops many of us from reaching our full potential. I find it interesting that the dual fears of “success” and “not succeeding” often appear in the same person. The result is that we do not act, we become complacent and we settle. I am not sure which fear is more harmful.
  2. Fear of Imagined Pain & Suffering– I have been hurt more times than I could probably count. I have broken ankles and wrists, been stitched head to toe, sat through MRIs, CAT Scans and surgery. I’ve been doctored in some of the nicest facilities in the world and received care in the backyard of a local 3rd world resident. And yet I have always recovered.

The pain has subsided and my life has gone on. Mostly the memories have faded into great stories to tell at cocktail parties. Nothing in my past has given reality to my imagined fear of pain and suffering and yet I still hesitate before leaping out of airplanes. Maybe it is more sanity than fear? Often many of us are paralyzed by imagined fears. It may not always be pain or suffering, it could be embarrassment or loss.

 

So, what can we do? Knowing that I suffer from these fears and likely you do too, I thought I would share a few ways (well….11) that we can overcome fears and keep moving in the direction of success- to reach our potential and realize our dreams.Deportista celebrando sujetando un trofeo,logro,triunfo.

  1. Recognize the fear– once you accept that everyone faces uncertainty and “fear” you can begin to strengthen your resolve. Those who have succeeded before you have faced similar challenges, maybe greater challenges than your own.
  2. Friends– you cannot do it alone- No one reached the top of Everest by himself, it takes a team, a support network, mentors, and education. Surround yourself with people who can lift you up and give you the skills you need to progress.
  3. Kill the negative– If you are like me, most of your fear comes from that crazy little voice in your head. I am much more critical of myself than others are of me. Stop the negative self-talk and replace it with positive. Whether you think you can or think you can’t you are generally right (thanks Zig Ziglar)
  4. Visualize the outcome– Many of our fears are the unknown and perceptions of false reality. Take a deep breathe, relax and visualize the outcome. When things go bad they usually aren’t as bad as you thought, when it’s good it’s usually better than you thought. Fill that half glass full.
  5. Take control– recognize that the outcome is often in your control. You may not be able to control every aspect, but largely the end result can be affected positively in your favor. Take control and persevere.
  6. Be bold– a very successful podcaster friend counseled that “fortune favors the bold” (thanks John Lee Dumas)
  7. Celebrate success– even if you fear success, celebrate it. Positively reinforce your success, make it common… make it subconscious.
  8. Be curious– Always be looking for new ways to approach a situation or problem. What makes you nervous about one solution may make you confident in another. If you fear public speaking but want to verbally share your message, try a podcast (or you can listen to mine)
  9. Enjoy the ride– Life is short and sweet. We have little blessings that pass through our days to give us joy, lift us up and remind us to breathe. This crazy ride called life can produce more excitement and adrenaline than scuba diving with sharks or peering into a live volcano (trust me).
  10. What is the worst thing that could happen? Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn… either way you come out ahead. Oh, and remember that bones heal while glory lasts eternally.
  11. Start small and grow– the first time I spoke in public it wasn’t in front of 300 guests. Baby steps to success.

Since that first rock-climbing adventure at 14 years old, I have been up and down hundreds of rock faces. I have fallen and recovered and learned to absolutely love the sport. I even proposed to my wife during a climbing adventure. The fear that paralyzed me so many years ago is gone, replaced with other fears and obstacles. But, like the fear of heights, as I continue down my road to success I will triumph and succeed and love every minute of it.

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If There is No Wind, Row

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When looking at people and companies that are having success it can seem like the wind is at their backs. Every little adjustment results in forward surge. Take, for example, Apple and the iPhone. With every release they have thousands standing in lines to get the update. Even if the only change is the color you will see hundreds of eager fans.

For other companies, especially start-ups, it seems they are headed directly into the wind. Working day and night on a product or offering that is loaded with powerful features (and benefits) and yet no one notices. Malcom Gladwell writes about this in his phenomenal best-seller “Tipping Point”. The book explains the long uphill battle that companies or ideas have to make before they are noticed and the early adopters accept it. But after the long hard push something happens, the idea/company/person hits the tipping point. People begin to take notice. Success takes off.

In the beginning, no matter what the endeavor, you will have to work extra hard. Understand and recognize that your hard work will eventually pay off. When I started blogging, I released my first post to crickets. While I now have a small audience I can see momentum building. This summer I will be releasing my first podcast which will undoubtedly launch to very little listenership and that is ok. I need to row. The wind is coming and when it does I will have my boat and my business moving in the right direction to take advantage. If There is No Wind, Row!

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Diversity Can Make You Smarter

The concept of diversity has been a hot topic recently in the media. In this past month alone we have seen discussions (debates? arguments?) about immigration, gender equality and a ruling from the high court on gay marriage.

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Even Coca-Cola is getting involved using its reputation to combat prejudice. In the Middle East, during Ramadan, Coke is removing its name from their cans leaving only the silver stripe and the words, “Labels are for cans not people”.

There are a lot of reasons to support diversity on the grounds of treating everyone fairly, everyone having intrinsic value, brotherly kindness and love. But, could there be other, more practical reasons to value diversity?

Five years ago our family moved from Gilbert, AZ, a town just outside of Phoenix of about 200,000, to San Jose, CA, America’s 10th largest city. Aside from having “more” people, this city has “different” people. We moved from an area that is 90% white/Caucasian, to an area where Caucasian isn’t the majority. And it has been great!!

At the time of our move, my oldest daughter was just entering kindergarten. Her first day of class she was excited to meet new friends, Indians, Chinese Americans, Hispanics, a couple of boys who just moved from Russia (and spoke zero English) etc. For her first year of school, she walked home nearly every day with these 2 young Russian immigrants and watched (and helped) as they learned English. She also experienced their culture and taught me a thing or two.

Our kids are growing up racially colorblind and that is important.

Diverse group of kids looking at tablet.

Just this past week my other daughter was talking about the new Annie movie starring Quvenzhané Wallis. She said, “I want to see the new Annie with the brown hair”. Curious, I asked her what the difference between the “new” Annie and the “old” Annie is. Her reply, “hair color”. Even baited with a question like that, a seven-year-old, only sees a difference in hair. I smiled, as I am continually impressed with young people today.

But aside from seeing everyone as equal and important contributing members of a larger society, can diversity make you smarter? I absolutely say “yes”! Here are 3 reasons why I think diversity can affect intelligence:

  1. Exposure to new ideas and ways of thinking. As we interact with different cultures and beliefs we are exposed to news ways to look at the problems we are trying to solve. A variety of stimuli causes your brain to react differently creating new thoughts and seeing solutions in different ways.
  2. Diversity creates friction- but this is a good thing. Studies have been conducted for over 50 years on group cohesiveness and productivity. Studies have revealed both benefits and downsides of diverse teams on performance, but one benefit is that groups with a little friction tend to focus more on objective data and less on subjective opinions… just the facts ma’am. Or as Stephen Covey once said, “strength lies in differences, not similarities”.
  3. Diversity prepares us for the future. It is pretty clear that with the expanding accessibility of the Internet, the ease of travel and the increasingly mobile nature of society that the earth is flattening. Today we experience and are exposed to more cultures than our parents were and our kids will experience a more multicultural world than we do. Exposure, respect and interaction with a diverse group of friends, coworkers and colleagues now prepares our kids for the world as it will be.

There have been may great things about our move to San Jose, but one of the most important has been the ease and opportunity to learn and grow with other cultures. Diversity can make you smarter; indeed it has made all of us smarter.

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The Metaphor of the Mud Stuck Truck (a true story)

When I opened the door to the truck the muddy creek was nearly to the bottom of my door. I was in trouble, stuck for sure…

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A few years ago, my dad, my brothers, a few friends and I drove to a remote lake in Northern Saskatchewan to do some fishing. I am not a very dedicated fisherman, but I thought a week away would treat me well. Apparently the Northern Pike and Walleye were excellent.

If you have never been on a “fishing only” trip, let me paint you a picture. Three of us got up every morning before a reasonable hour and headed out in this little-motorized fishing boat. We would find a little corner of the lake and then sit and fish ALL day. And that was about it.

I suppose if you love fishing this would be a dream. For me, I enjoyed a few minutes and then curled up in the bow and mostly napped. If I’m being honest, the week was great. We spent a lot of time joking and relaxing and built some great memories. I even caught a few fish.

The lake was in a remote part of Saskatchewan; I mean very remote. We were a good half hour drive from the nearest town and apparently, that is why the fishing is so good. I guess it is part of the charm and experience.

After a couple of days of lake napping, I needed a little change of venue. My bright idea was to take the truck, my dad’s truck, and drive into town to pick up some milk and a box of cereal. Exciting right?

As I was travelling down the road less travelled, I saw a sign that for a 19 year old young man was just too intriguing to avoid, “Firework Factory” and an arrow pointing off the road. So, I made the quick right turn onto the dirt road and headed toward this important site.

I never did see the factory. A ways off the main road I came to a fenced area with signs about no trespassing and violators being shot etc. So, I decided to turn back. My interest had already shifted to this new trail I passed along the way. A trail that looked like it needed four-wheel drive. I love four-wheeling.

As I went deeper into the backcountry of Saskatchewan my smile grew. The trail got more and more technical and I became engrossed in the experience. Next, I came up over a small rolling hill that quickly dropped down to a small creek. As I descended my smile faded as I realized the drop was too steep to reverse back up. I was forced to continue and make an attempt to cross the creek.

I gave the vehicle a little gas and plunged in. The creek was deeper than I imagined and the truck almost immediately sunk in the mud. I was definitely in trouble. And, this was the days before cell phones.

So imagine, age 19, by myself, miles from the road, at least 20 miles from the nearest town, no cell phone, way off the beaten path and stuck in the mud. The more I hit the gas the deeper the tires sunk. Uh oh!

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I got out to survey the situation and that is when I realized just how bad it had become. I was stuck down nearly to the bottom of the doors and that’s in a truck with a decent profile height.

Do you ever feel like you are stuck in the mud of life? Do you ever feel like you are way out of your comfort zone, separated from support, no lifeline, with really nowhere to go?

I think we all have experiences where we feel this way, whether it is burnout or job loss or relationship struggles or one of the hundreds of challenges we all face. So what do we do? Here are some lessons I learned as I tried to “save my truck”.

  1. Don’t panic. Rational thinking, not emotional thinking can help you find options.
  2. Work hard. Sometimes to overcome the obstacles in life you need to get out, get dirty, and work.
  3. A solution is likely within your grasp; you just need to think differently and maybe outside the box.
  4. Give it some gas. Push yourself outside your comfort zone and commit to doing what needs to be done to overcome.
  5. Never give up. Solutions will come, in time, if you persist in doing the right thing.
  6. Get lucky. Despite all your best efforts, there may be times that the only way for things to go right is to get lucky. If you recognize that luck is preparation meeting opportunity you will be ready.
  7. Ask for help. Many times we can’t do it alone. You may need to ask for a hand up.
  8. Clean up. Things are not always going to work out and when they don’t, admit the mistake, make the situation right and move on.
  9. Learn the lesson. Once you have gone through the challenge learn the lesson and don’t repeat it. Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn. Whatever got you into the tough situation is probably avoidable in the future with the new knowledge acquired.

So, what happened in the creek? After spinning my tires longer than I should have and getting fairly frustrated, I walked through the 9 ideas above.

Despite being completely off the grid, I kept my head and refused to panic [1] (too much). I got out of the truck and began the difficult task of digging out each of the 4 tires ([2] work hard). I found a bunch of twigs and sticks on the creek bank and stuffed them in the freshly dug holes ([3] creativity). Jumped back into the truck, put it in neutral, revved the engine and then popped the truck into drive ([4] give it some gas).

I had to get out and dig new holes and fill them with twigs and sticks a few more times [5] but wouldn’t you know…as luck [6] would have it…the truck roared out of the river and I made it back to the lake.

When I arrived, the truck looked pretty bad and my dad was not happy to see a mud covered version of his truck. Thankfully, his anger lasted only long enough for me to enlist his help [7] cleaning up the mess and restoring the truck to its original condition [8].

Count that as a lesson learned [9]. And, I can assure you, that was the last time I ran off to do some solo four-wheeling in northern Saskatchewan……but I plead the 5th when it comes to other four-wheel adventures in his truck.

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When You Do The Things You Need To Do….

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When you do the things you need to do, when you need to do them, the day will come when you can do the things you want to do, when you want to do them. – Zig Ziglar

Zig Ziglar is my favorite mentor. He has more one-liner and quotable quotes than any person that I have followed. I love the idea that you need to do today what needs to be done so that you will be able to do the things that you want to do when you want to do them. I saw Zig live when I was 12 years old. He asked the audience to imagine receiving a call with an offer to go to Acapulco, expense free, the next morning. Who would be able to do it? The majority of the audience responded that they would be able to. But then reality set in as Zig started to list off the number of things that needed to be done before you could pick up and leave for a week. More and more people realized that the opportunity was more daunting than it originally sounded. He concluded with a challenge that we live ready to leave for Acapulco always.

Living ready means prioritizing your day and accomplishing the “have tos” before getting lost in the “like tos”. Do you get lost in email, spending too long responding to simple requests while simultaneously putting off the things that would really move your organization or you dreams forward? I am sure you have, I do it too. Be careful not to let the immediate crowd out the important. If you accomplish each goal in priority you will get more done, be more productive and be able to do the things you want to do when you want to do them. Acapulco anyone?

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Greatness is Within Your Ability

Greatness is within your ability, you can become great. You have within you the skills and talent to excel. We are only limited by our beliefs.

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The great motivator, Jim Rohn taught, “If you want to have more, you have to become more”. This is because success is not merely a doing process, it is a becoming process. You need to become the type of person that attracts success.

You may have heard that 97% percent of the population spends more time each week planning their grocery trip than setting goals and planning their life (that is scary). For most people, peas, carrots and ice cream are more important than passion, goals and success.

The reason has very little to do with desire. Most people want to do more, to have more, and be more but are unable to make the leap.

You have probably heard me talk of Howard Hill before. Hill was an archer and he was really good. He was so good, in fact, that he was never beaten in competition and won 196 competitions in a row.

He could draw, aim and hit the bull’s-eye dead center. Then, with the next arrow split the first. The exciting truth is, if you apply the principles I lay out below, you could be more accurate than Howard Hill ever was?

Granted, we would have to blindfold Hill and turn him around so he wouldn’t know which direction to shoot. I can hear you chuckling and saying, “of course he cannot hit a target he cannot see”. And that is the lesson, how can you hit a target you do not have? Having a goal to go after is essential.

Reaching the Goal!

Here are three steps that you can take to make sure you always have a target to shoot for.

  1. Write it down. It may sound cliché but “don’t just think it, ink it. Goals become more real when they appear on your paper. Studies show that the simple act of writing a goal down makes it 42% more likely to be completed.
  2. Dream big, to go big. Play above your level. Napoleon Hill is famous for saying, “whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve”. Do not limit yourself, reach higher. “Shoot for the moon and even if you miss you will wind up among the stars” – Norman Vincent Peale.
  3. Finally, Review goals often. I suggest daily (or twice daily). Keep them fresh and real and actionable. Go to bed thinking of your dreams and wake up invigorated to accomplish them

Following these three simple steps will ensure that you can see the target and accurately hit it. Remember to ink your goals, dream big and review often. Watch out- you are on the road to becoming.

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So Many of Our Dreams at First Seem Impossible…

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So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable. – Christopher Reeves

When you have a big dream there will be many who cannot and will not understand your vision. Because they do not understand, they can be discouraging saying you are crazy. Imagine the Wright brothers assembling their first airplane. As they shared their dreams there were many who said it could not be done, many who told them to focus on something more realistic.

Do you have a dream right now that seems beyond your reach? Are you chasing a passion that others say is impossible? The harder you work and the more adjustments and refinements you make the more likely you are to succeed. At some point you will start to gain momentum. Your dream will still seem far off and unlikely but will start to be “possible”. Finally, after the effort is put in and obstacles overcome, momentum will be so strong that nothing can stand in your way. At this point you will have no problem reaching your objective, it will be inevitable.

The interesting thing about this quote is that it refers to how others see your dreams, not you. To be successful you must always see your dream as inevitable. The Wright brothers knew that they would create a flying machine. It is the strong belief that completion of your goals is inevitable that pushes you through the obstacles, distractions and fatigue. Are your dreams inevitable?

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